Over the past two years, I have spent a lot of time studying parent engagement and researching ways to improve the home-school connection. I can give you a bazillion reason from the TEACHER'S perspective as to why family involvement in a student's education is essential.
This fall, I became the PARENT of a student and gained a new perspective. My daughter started taking weekly drawing classes. Before the classes began, I received an email from the teacher listing the supplies my child would need. Although the list was in English, I had no idea what some of the items were like a flare pen or an art portfolio. Thankfully, the teacher purchased all of the supplies and I just had to write a check.
After the first day of class, my five-year-old walked to the car with a grocery sack of supplies and a very large one of these:
This is an art portfolio! Can you tell I never took drawing classes growing up?
The teacher had mentioned previously that there would be weekly sketch assignments so, on our way home, I asked my daughter about her homework. She didn't remember hearing anything about homework.
And I believed her.
I thought about emailing the teacher to ask but I had already asked about what to do with the supplies in the grocery bag and I didn't want to be one of "those parents" that constantly bug the teacher.
In subsequent weeks, my daughter remembered her homework assignments most of the time. Every week, I reminded her to do her homework (typically the day/night before drawing class). She would do the sketching in our living room or kitchen while I cooked dinner or worked on the computer. I would praise her efforts but did not intervene because I really had no idea what she was learning in class. At times, I thought about sitting down with her and drawing my own sketch alongside her but then decided against it. After all, I'm not the teacher! I figured it was better for her to do her own work and let the teacher see what she could really do on her own.
Every Monday, I helped her strap on her backpack with supplies and I carried that large, brown portfolio to the door of her class. Not once did it occur to me to open that portfolio...
Yes, I'm a horrible parent! I'm sure it would have occurred to you! Well, sometime in mid-November, I grew curious about what might be in that large brown thing that spent the week propped against the wall in my laundry room. I opened it up and discovered several sheets of paper. One of those sheets of paper was a list of the weekly homework assignments FOR THE YEAR! Yep, I'm pretty sure the teacher had put that there the first week of school.
My excuse? Drawing classes are a new world to me. I didn't know that the portfolio was really just a very large "Take Home Folder".
Do I want my child to be able to draw well? Of course! That is why I put her in those classes with an expert!
And this is where I start to appreciate in a new way the perspectives of the parents that do not seem involved in their child's education...